Sunday, 27 April 2014

Fertility Focus Teleconference

Haven't taken part in this before, but if anyone is interested, this is a series of teleconferences discussing different aspects surrounding infertility. I hope it helps people:


  1. Just as an update, my husband has a balanced translocation, discovered after 3 failed IVFs. After getting 4 "good" embryos after 4 more IVFs with PGD, I have had 2 separate transfers, one fresh, one frozen. One made it to 9 weeks, and one did not implant at all, just a negative result. So even getting "good" embryos via PGD, it does not necessarily lead to a successful pregnancy. I still have 2 frozen left, but am now wondering if they will ever work. All the time and money spent on IVF/PGD and still nothing to show for it.

    1. I'm sorry you've had such a frustrating time. It turns into a slow and expensive process before you even realise it! What are your doubts about using your frosties? How to cope if it doesn't work? How do you and your DH feel about using a donor? Is that a conversation you've had at all?

  2. I will definitely try at least 1 more FET, but the emotional toll is incredible and I feel like I am in a dark hole with no way out. The doctor had said there was no reason that this last one should not have been successful. Hopes get sky high, then dashed to pieces when they call you with a negative result. It is so hard to go through that over and over going on 4 years. My DH is not opposed to using donor sperm, but wants to hear a medical reason for doing so. If 2 (or 3 if I can stomach it) FETs with "good" embryos fail, why would donor sperm make a difference? Seems like there may be other issues on top of the translocation. And I would probably have to do another round of IVF with donor sperm, which I just do not know if I could handle. But who knows. I guess we will cross that bridge when we come to it.
    In the meantime, my emotional state is shot, and I have gained at least 10 pounds between the hormones and the lack of workouts during cycles. And I am getting older every day.
    How do you answer people when they ask, How are you? I am furious with the nurses at the clinic who ask it so cheerfully. How the F--- do you think I am?! You have seen my file!