Monday, 11 November 2013

Fertility Show - London 2013

So last weekend we went along to the Fertility Show at London Olympia. There were lots of IVF clinics there, not just from the UK, but also from Spain, Greece and the US. It was a really interesting afternoon, and I'm glad we went along. There were interesting seminars from people/experts working in the industry and it was just a good way to consider our options, even though they are limited. We came back with lots of bumpf - a lot I've chucked, but some I've kept for future reference.

I guess our choices boil down to the following: try PGD a fourth time (£9k/$15k), try egg donation (around the same cost as PGD, possibly more, whether we do it here in the UK or aboard), adoption or do nothing at all. And I guess there is trying naturally again and hoping we beat (my very poor) odds. None of these options is easy. I guess I/we are moving more towards egg donation as the most realistic chance of us having a family. In the UK, egg donation is non-anonymous, meaning the child is entitled to trace their donor when they are old enough. But elsewhere in Europe, such as Spain, it is totally anonymous, and the child will never be able to trace their donor.

How do I feel about all of this? To be honest, I'm quite tired of the whole thing. The past few years have been very gruelling and I'm quite exhausted just thinking about it all. Our three PGDs didn't work for one reason or another, and I don't think it's an unusual experience. In the same vein, there's been a small flurry of articles about the impact of IVF when it doesn't work, which I thought were interesting:

Five million babies have been born thanks to IVF. But few people talk of the many more times the treatment doesn't work, says Lisa Jardine, the departing chair of the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24652639

A recent Magazine article by Lisa Jardine about the frequency with which In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) fails prompted readers to send in their own experiences.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24725655

There may be five million IVF success stories, but for many millions more women, the treatments have failed. So why do we never hear from them?
http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/sep/27/ivf-where-all-grief-going

2 comments:

  1. Thank you for providing these links. I often find myself wondering about those who try and don't have a child after IVF. I hope you come to a conclusion that is right for you and your family. I can only imagine it is exquisitely difficult.

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    1. Small visit from the blog 'Silent Love' - I just remembering being where you are for other reasons. Fed-up, tired and annoyed. Just take some time out but don't lost sight of the goal. Not now, because though its hard to see, you have come so far and you are moving forward xxx

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